The Relationship Revolution.
SEE WHAT OTHERS MISS.
The relationships that shape your life shouldn’t have to remain a mystery.
Whether you’re questioning a romantic relationship, worried about someone you love, struggling at work, or simply trying to build healthier connections, The McMillan Method™ helps you see what’s really happening—and decide what to do next.
Relationships leave evidence. The key is knowing how to read it.
Grounded in behavioral science and decades of research and real-world experience, The McMillan Method™ turns complex insights into clear, practical tools. Our approach helps you recognize important patterns, understand what they may mean, and make better-informed decisions with greater confidence.
Private. Practical. Evidence-based.
Looking doesn’t mean leaving.
You don’t have to be ready to end a relationship—or make any major decision—to begin looking at it clearly. Clarity can help you strengthen what’s healthy, address what isn’t working, establish better boundaries, and recognize when something more serious may be happening.
You’re not being told what to do. You’re being given a better way to see and understand.
How The McMillan Method™ Works
You don't need a label. You need useful evidence.
Notice what you may have missed.
1 — SEE
Recognize patterns and evidence in the relationship—not just isolated incidents or assumptions.
LOVE ME, LOVE ME NOT?
Is this relationship as healthy and mutual as it should be?
When feelings are involved, it can be difficult to see a relationship objectively. Look at the patterns that can reveal how balanced, supportive and healthy the relationship really is.
For romantic partners, family and friends.
2 — UNDERSTAND
Put the evidence in context.
Learn what those patterns may mean and which deserve closer attention.
WHY DO I FEEL SO BAD?
Something feels wrong. But what is it?
Confusing, hurtful or troubling behavior can leave you questioning the relationship—and sometimes yourself. Look beyond isolated incidents to identify patterns that may deserve your attention.
For relationships that leave you confused, diminished or concerned.
3 — CHOOSE
Decide what makes sense for you.
Use what you've learned to make better-informed decisions about what to do next.
DOES THIS WORK?
Is this workplace relationship working—or working against you?
Examine workplace interactions more objectively and identify patterns that may be affecting your performance, confidence, wellbeing or professional relationships.
For employees, managers and HR professionals.
YOUR ANSWERS. YOUR RESULTS. YOUR BUSINESS.
Private. Interactive. Immediate. Yours to keep.
Each Clarity Tool is your own interactive digital file, with scoring and basic results built in. Complete it privately, get your score instantly, and keep it to use again whenever you choose.
Your answers aren't submitted to The McMillan Method, and you don't have to share your answers or results with anyone unless you choose to.
What Do You Need Clarity About?
Start with the question that's on your mind.
Is this relationship really working for me?
Maybe you care about each other—but something still feels uneven. Look beyond feelings and examine the patterns that reveal how mutual, supportive and healthy the relationship really is.
Romantic partners • Family • Friends
Love Me, Love Me Not™
“I knew the relationship had serious problems. I didn't know it was this bad — or that there was something I could do.”
— Clarity Tool user
Why am I hurt and unhappy so often?
You're confused, hurt or simply know something isn't right. Instead of guessing—or reaching for a label—look at the patterns and evidence that may explain what you're experiencing.
Romantic partners • Family • Friends
Why Do I Feel So Bad?™
Is this working - or working against me?
A difficult workplace relationship can affect far more than your day. Examine the patterns objectively and understand what may be affecting your confidence, performance and professional wellbeing.
Employees • Managers • HR
Does This Work?™
What People Are Saying About the Clarity Tools
People who've used the Clarity Tools describe what they discovered — and what changed once they could see their situation more clearly.
“I'd noticed a change but wasn't sure what it was, or who was causing the friction. Now I do. And now that I see it, it's pretty obvious.”
— Clarity Tool user
“This tool helped me close the door on a relationship that didn't work. I realized how much effort I'd wasted on something that wasn't going anywhere.”
— Clarity Tool user
Choose the Level of Help You Need
Start with clarity. Choose how far you want to go.
1— Get Clarity
Assessment Tools
Quick, private and self-scored. Identify important patterns, evaluate the evidence more objectively and see where your relationship stands now.
Best when, “I need to understand what's happening.”
2 — Understand More
Assessment Tool Score Guides & Insight Editions
Go beyond your score with more detailed information and interpretation. Score Guides help you understand your results, what they may mean and what you may want to do next.
Coming soon, Insight Editions will offer an even deeper level of analysis and practical next steps.
Best when, “I have my results. Now I want to understand what they mean.”
3 — Get Guidance & Support
Courses • Webinars • Guidance & Support
When information isn't enough, take the next step with education, practical guidance and support—online or in person.
Best when, “I understand the situation. Now I want help deciding what to do next.”
Don't Stay Stuck Wondering.
Uncertainty has a cost. Clarity can change what you do next.
When an important relationship doesn't make sense, it's easy to replay conversations, second-guess yourself, ask other people what they think — or simply hope things will become clearer.
You can do something more useful.
Starting at only $29.95, you can privately examine the evidence for yourself.
Private
No appointment. No explanations. Your answers and results are yours.
Quick
Start identifying important patterns without weeks of uncertainty.
Purchase once. Use your Assessment Tool again whenever you need it. (Screenshot any results you’d like to keep).
Reusable
Evidence-based
Look at patterns and behavior — not guesses, labels or internet diagnoses.
Start with the relationship that's on your mind.
Private • Self-scored • Reusable
The Research and Experience Behind the Method
Built on decades of research and real-world experience—not internet opinion.
25+ YEARS
Studying what makes relationships healthy, lasting—or harmful
20+ YEARS
Helping individuals and couples choose compatible partners, build and maintain healthy relationships, and make wiser decisions about commitment
4,500+ INTERVIEWS
With abuse victim-survivors, revealing how damaging relationship patterns develop and persist
700+ IN-DEPTH INTERVIEWS
With abusers, uncovering manipulation strategies and warning signs others often miss
FROM INSIGHT TO REAL-WORLD APPLICATION
Relationship education • Individual and couple support • Courts • Law enforcement • Government • Professional and public training
Meet Dr. Dina McMillan
Dr. Dina McMillan is a Stanford University–educated social psychologist, author and internationally recognized expert on how healthy relationships are built, how harmful relationships take hold—and how people can tell the difference.
For more than 25 years, her work has focused on understanding the patterns people often miss—and turning that knowledge into practical tools that help people make better-informed decisions.
Her work has taken her from courts, law enforcement and government settings to professional training, public education and international audiences. She is the creator of Unmasking the Abuser, author of multiple books, and host of Heart & Mind with Dr. Dina McMillan.
Ready to See More Clearly?
Start on your own terms. See what the evidence shows. Decide what makes sense for you.
See the Research in Action
Watch Dr. McMillan's TEDx talk, Unmasking the Abuser.
Discover how seemingly ordinary relationship behaviors can reveal patterns that are much more important than they first appear.
Nearly 500,000 Views Worldwide
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Ready to See More Clearly?
You don't have to keep guessing about an important relationship.
Use a private, evidence-based Assessment Tool to examine the patterns for yourself—and decide what makes sense for you.
Private • Self-scored • Reusable